Likeness...

Sophia issued a blog posting challenge today over on TwoPeas. It was one that spurred some thought on my part. So, I thought I'd share my response. Her challenge was:
Who are you most like? Do you have a friend who could be your twin separated at
birth. Not in looks, but actions, likes, dislikes..... Who are you most like? Is
there more than one person? Tell, tell! Otherwise, what's on your mind today?

Perhaps it is because being an adopted child gives me a different perspective, but I am most like all of my parents (my mother, father, and birthmother). Of all people I'm probably more like my mother than anyone else, but I am significant likenesses towards all three of them.

I have a lot of personality traits and actions like my birthmother Sheri. When we met for the first time (January 2001) it amazed my friends how much we were alike in our mannerisms and vocabulary. We tilted our heads the same direction and the same way. We said the same comebacks, with the same tone and manner. But, we had never seen or heard each other do them before.

I also have a lot of personality traits from my father. One way is that I try to figure out why people are the way they are. Why they act a certain way or react to a situation the way they do. We try to realize what it was in their past that created the pattern, and perhaps understand (and not excuse some behaviors) why people are the way they are.

I am a whole lot like my mother. I organize the way she does. I plan events the way she does. I do things with gusto the way she does. I cook the way she does. I get overwhelmed and overcommitted the same way she does. In many many ways, I'm very much a copy cat of my mother. I even find myself saying and doing the same things she did to me when I'm dealing with Kimberlee.

It's kind of fun to look back and see what and who shaped me into the person I am today. There are many, many people who've influenced me along the way but my parents (as with almost everyone) are the major contributors to my self.

If you have any complaints - they're the ones you can contact. :) Personally though, I don't think anyone could have done any where near as ubertastic as they have.

2 comments:

Tracy said...

Interesting post! I'm adopted too. : )

Anonymous said...

I am so very happy that you are the person that you are! I owe your parents so much they, or you, will never know! When I met them I was so comfortable in their presense, they made me feel as if I was part of the family and always had been. They make me want to be a better person. I love you so much and I love them for choosing you. I could never have hand picked a better set of people if I had the option. I love you Sunshine! Sheri